How do you create an ordinary family life, while dealing with the extraordinary needs of an autistic child Meet Mickey charming, funny, compassionate, and autistic In this unflinching portrait of family life, Liane Kupferberg Carter gives us a mother s insight into what really goes on in the two decades after diagnosis From the double blow of a subsequent epilepsy diagnosis, to bullying and Bar Mitzvahs, Mickey s struggles and triumphs along the road to adulthood are honestly detailed to show how one family learned to grow and thrive with autism....
|Title||:||Ketchup is My Favorite Vegetable: A Family Grows Up with Autism|
|Publisher||:||Jessica Kingsley Publishers October 21, 2015|
|Number of Pages||:||352 pages|
|File Size||:||595 KB|
|Status||:||Available For Download|
|Last checked||:||21 Minutes ago!|
Ketchup is My Favorite Vegetable: A Family Grows Up with Autism Reviews
Liane Kupferberg Carter, author of KETCHUP IS MY FAVORITE VEGETABLE uses the word beamish a small handful of times in her book about family life with autism: on the book’s dedication page (To my beamish boys); midway through, quoting her husband, who was kvelling about Mickey’s newly revealed Opera Voice; and once again, toward the end of the book. Because I was reading the paperback and not an e-book version, I didn’t pause to look up the word until the third time I read it. Now, I will never forget the word, just as I will never forget the journey Kupferberg Carter took me on from the opening pages to The End. Beamish means “beaming and bright with optimism, promise or achievement,” infrequently used but often in tandem with boy. (I should have surmised that, but was thinking beamish might have Yiddish roots and mean something else, albeit similar.) Beamish also quite aptly yet surprisingly describes this memoir itself. Aptly, because there are points in the story where one feels a mother’s joy and exuberance, yet surprising because the memoir chronicles the whole gamut of emotions: fear, frustration, seething anger, adoration, delight and joy, and two constants: utter exhaustion and unflinching determination, as the family forges its way through the first two decades of life with autism.
As a clinical psychologist and a person who deeply respects and cares for family, I see this account of love and devotion as a testament to the best of family life and love. The author and her husband gave all they could to their family and their children. They were exquisitely sensitive to both their children's needs and regardless of the difficulties, found life, love and true joy together as a family. The author is eloquent in describing their lives together and her words are deeply evocative of her family life filled with joy, struggle and ,above all, loving kindness. I give this beautiful account of autism in a loving family a five star recommendation for exquisite content and skilled writing. It is a story suited to both the general public and to anyone who has a special interest in autism.
What can one parent who has a son with autism say to another but courage, fortitude and you are not alone. I just finished reading Liane Kupferberg Carter's wonderful book and feel enhanced and further connected to others on the autism journey. Although much has changed in the autism community in the approximately 25 years that separate us - my son being the older - not enough has. There are no cures. Nor is anyone that I can see closer to finding a cure. But there are better educational programs and kinder public attitudes. And that in and of itself is welcomed progress.
This is an extremely engaging, well-written, heartfelt memoir. Carter expertly weaves remembrances from earlier days in with her story of raising her son, and shares the joys, fears, and hopes of parenting a child with autism with honesty, respect and love. She shares the despair of dealing with a school system that, at times seems bent on providing no appropriate services, and the thrill of seeing her son succeed in tasks she had been told he never would. Carter neither shrinks from the uncomfortable realities of life, nor allows them to be an excuse to embarrass her child or throw herself a pity party. This is a memoir that allows the reader to have a view of someone's life, without feeling like a voyeur. Well done!
Wow! I loved Liane Kupferberg Carter's beautifully written memoir, Ketchup is My Favorite Vegetable. From the moment I opened the book, I was drawn in by Liane's engaging writing style. As a mom of a young adult with autism, I could relate to so many of the author's experiences - the brothers' love, the difficult transitions, and especially a mom's fierce advocacy for her son. She made me cry when I read the line, "Who would love him when we were gone?" Thank you to Liane for sharing her family's journey with us. I highly recommend this must read book to anyone touched by autism.
For anyone with an autistic child in their family, this is a well written must read. Heartrending, illuminating, loving, informative and couldn't put it down. Even without the autism this is a story of how to raise a family and how this family stood up with love in their hearts to do the best they could for their beloved Mickey and Jonathan.
Extraordinary book. It's beautifully written. Even more important, Carter conveys both the grief & the joy of living with a child--now adult--with Autism Spectrum Disorder. While none of can truly know what it's like, her honesty opens a door into her world & can teach all of us. I was also impressed by all she & her husband have learned about medical, educational, & treatment options for individuals with ASD. Their knowledge & experience clearly make them strong advocates for their son but can also serve as a guide for other parents--and professionals in the field.